What is love?

What is love? What is falling in love? These are important questions that lie at the very depths of our beings, so I'll answer as best I can, from a combination of my own explorations in this area as well as information that I receive.

From the point of view of your soul, love is who you are. Love is what your soul experiences when it connects with another soul. Ultimate soul-based love is a return to oneness, where you and another, as souls, become one and experience that unity as an even greater form of love. Divine love is so intense that if you could see it as light, it would seem blinding. And yet, this is the experience that the soul "lives for", and the one that we yearn to find when we take human form.

As humans, we are deeply rooted in a world of duality. This fosters separateness between people, and assists each soul in its individual development. However, though you don't consciously remember what it is to be in the perfect purity of divine love, you are still driven to return to that feeling which is ultimately Home. If you've ever truly felt that "Home is where the heart is", or Home is in the arms of your beloved, then you've relived that feeling of reuniting, of wanting to be so close to another that you want to overlap in the same space. Separateness is not who we are, but it is the schoolroom in which we learn to interact with other souls within a different set of rules, and to transcend all of it in the end by seeing other people as other souls rather than focusing on the clothing of personality that they present to the world.

So love is who you are at your core, and your job is to return to that core by peeling away the layers of false beliefs and fears that may be clouding your view of it. In this sense, love is indeed a choice that you make until you realize that you are nothing else, but don't feel that you should present a Pollyanna-like face to the world when there is turbulence going on inside. Rather, it is a recognition that you are on a path, and every step on that path is serving you to bring you to new awareness, making it easier to let go of old perceptions. Everyone has had experiences in their lives that have held them stuck in certain belief patterns, and your soul is helping you find ways to release those patterns, even by what may feel like draconian methods. It is my hope that what I can bring can somehow make this process easier for people, whether it be in the form of information, energy, or so much love that it bathes away whatever is causing pain to those around me.

When you fall in love, it's normally because your soul has recognized another soul with which it has a particularly deep connection. Normally, this connection has a purpose to help you learn about yourself in this lifetime. This can take the form of mirroring an aspect of yourself that you have been denying, or to show you that you have a repeating pattern in your relationships that needs to be healed, or to help you grow in a new direction. One type of repeating pattern is an addiction to the heights of being in love, to that initial period where you may believe that the other person is perfect, and they make you feel perfect. Hasn't it been said that love is blind? The danger inherent to this type of addiction is that this is not only an illusion that will eventually fade and potentially leave you feeling worse than before because you've just added to your list of unsuccessful relationships, but most importantly, it's symptomatic of the fact that you may be looking for love, for validation, from the outside instead of having achieved in on the inside.

That being said, it's far easier to come to appreciate the fullness of who you are and to release the parts that no longer serve you, when you have the support of someone who loves you deeply. It may even be easier if this person is more of a friend than a romantic partner because you are less likely to temper your development due to a fear that your changing will affect them somehow, potentially resulting in a withdrawal of that love.

The ultimate secret is that when you have seen the love that lies in your own heart right now, you are able to love someone else with an intensity that eclipses the feeling of falling in love which is actually something that happens outside of your conscious control. And the other part of the secret is that you can achieve this level of love in a non-romantic setting, with many people at the same time. Can you think of a more joyful way to experience life?

How all of this may unfold for you can be quite different than for someone else. But at any point of your journey, just know that you are loved. You may not see it or feel it immediately, but love for you abounds.

Helene